How to Avoid Homebuyer's Remorse
Remorse is a common feeling after you make an offer
You loved your future home when you signed the contract to purchase it, but now you're not sure if you made the right decision. What if you acted too quickly and a better house comes on the market next week? What if you paid too much? What if something happens to your finances and you can't make your house payments?
Hundreds of questions run through your mind as your closing day draws near. Most questions are simple and easily answered, but sometimes doubt creeps in and makes you uncertain if you want to proceed with the purchase.
Unless there's a true reason for concern, your state of mind might simply be a standard case of homebuyer's remorse. A house is the most expensive thing most people ever buy, so it's common to want to be sure you've bought the right one. If the doubt persists, there are several things worth considering to make sure you've made the correct decision.
Your Wants-and-Needs List
You should have written a wants-and-needs list before you started looking for a home—features you really can't live without and others that you'd really like to have if you could. Review your notes and make sure the home you are purchasing matches your needs and hopefully some of your wants too.
Ask yourself: Does the home you are buying include the most important things on your want-and-needs list? What qualities made the house stand out from the others you looked at? Did you find many houses that met your needs, or was this one a rarity?
Analyzing the facts that led you to the home will help you sort out your feelings about the purchase contract. Was it truly a poor choice, or would you be nervous moving forward on any house?
Input From Family and Friends
Remorse sometimes kicks in after we start talking to others about a new house. They usually mean well, but it's not uncommon for family and friends to question your choice and what you paid, especially if it's your first home purchase and they consider themselves to be seasoned pros. But do they know the market?
It might have been years since your best friend bought a property himself, and he probably isn't in touch with current prices if that's the case. He might even live in another part of the country, in an area where housing costs a fraction of what you can expect to pay at your location.
Let's face it, parents rarely think a house is good enough for their children. You can't compare how your parents bought a home years ago with your home today.
When family and friends offer such input, smile and thank them, but remember the process that brought you to make an offer on your new house. As long as you did your due diligence, you should be on solid ground, regardless of what anyone else has to say.
Continuing to Look at Houses
This is a big mistake. Stop looking at other houses when you're already under contract to buy another one unless you just want to torture yourself or you feel that the contract has a good chance of falling apart. Maybe you're not sure the appraisal will be satisfactory or you think the home inspection might uncover serious repair issues—then it's OK to keep looking.
Looking at houses includes browsing listings online. Just because you've stopped scheduling visits to homes or stopped attending open houses does not mean you've stopped shopping. If you continue scrolling through online listings, you're just fueling your homebuyers' remorse.
No Guidance From Your Real Estate Agent
Some agents don't help their buyers through the closing process. Questions and doubts pop up, and the agents aren't around to provide answers and assure their buyers that what they're feeling is normal. Unanswered questions can put buyers into panic mode, especially when it's their first home. Panic leads to doubt—and ultimately to buyer's remorse.
Contact your agent and others involved in your closing whenever you have a question. It's their job to help you. Nothing in life is certain, and we tend to think more about uncertainties when we make important commitments. Sometimes we just need a little reassurance. That's one of many things your agent is there for during this period.
When Your Concerns Are Valid
Of course, you might be forced to cancel a contract if there really is a genuine problem and it can't be resolved. There are times when purchases should be halted.
The conditions of your contract should allow you to back out without penalty under specific circumstances, such as that you can't get financing or because the house didn't appraise for a value at or above the contract sales price. The home inspection might uncover more repair issues than you're willing to take on.
You'll want to pull the plug if there are problems with the deed or title. Maybe the property boundary lines aren't as represented by the seller. A title search might uncover undisclosed easements that give someone else the right to use the property or undisclosed liens that won't be satisfied at closing. Maybe the wife of a former owner never released her rights to the property.
These and other serious problems are all issues that must be resolved before you purchase the property.
Timeshares or Condos
Check state laws if you're sorry you purchased a new timeshare or a condo because many states give buyers the right to cancel a contract if they have a change of heart after signing a purchase contract with the original developer. These laws usually don't cover resale units, however.
Cancellation clauses for other purchases might be commonly used in your area as well so ask your agent about them before you sign an offer to purchase a home.